Things always run much more smoothly when we surrender control. We are much happier for it too! Then why do we live our lives in so much resistance?
Ladies, we say no to opportunities that ignite our hearts because of what?
Fear of judgement?
Fear of the outcome?
Fear of losing control?
As women we are in charge of so many things in this life. It has gotten to the point that if we hand over one ball for another to juggle, then all others will fall. Surrendering that task and worrying about what the results will look like is just as stressful and doing the task yourself!
When I ask my husband to do the dishes I always end up finding them put away in the wrong place. And when I ask him to do the dishes, what I am really asking is for him to clean the kitchen. Don't stop at the dishes! Wipe the counters, clean up the crumbs, put away the spices, etc. When you clean the sink, everything else needs to be cleaned to. I have a hard time surrendering this task because I want the result to look a certain way, but if I come from a place of love and compassion for my husband - the fact that he is helping me out of love and compassion then I am happier. I can't control how he does things. I can only control my reaction and coming from now a place of love, I am happier.
Outdoor boudoir requires surrender. We cannot control mother nature. We can't control the temperatures, the wind, the glare of the sun, and we certainly cannot control how our body reacts to these elements! Our hair will go frizzy and tangle, our skin might burn from the sun, or goosebumps will appear from a cold breeze. What nature is asking of us is to relinquish control of the outcome and live in the present. Come into this experience with love. Trust me, your photographer. I will capture wild and beautiful images of you, despite the wind, despite those 5 pounds you wanted to lose, despite the frizz in your hair from the Texas humidity. You are surrounded by open space, trees, the breeze, and warm sun. Trees are not in resistance to anything. The longer you stay in their presence the more you will start to match their frequency. After time you will let go of the end result of your boudoir shoot. You will no longer worry that you curls have fallen or your mascara smudged. You are living in the present and it feels so fucking good!
"Nature is already living in the present state. It is in the frequency of presence. Trees aren't in resistance to anything. You body can match their frequency."